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Do you have any suggestions, when a parent has stopped enabling their adult child and then the child starts to take advantage of one’s parents (the adult child’s grandparents)? I’ve expressed my concern, given my parents a copy of your book on setting boundaries with adult children, by they still think they are “helping”. It breaks my heart to see them manipulated and taken advantage of especially in their senior years. Am crossing boundaries to even get involved:? Any advice?
The choices your parents are making are their choices…and you cannot control them. This is a “typical” scenario when a parent “sees the light” but a grandparent does not. Your role is not to figure out what to do in the event your parents continue the dysfunctional dynamic in this drama. Your role is to stay on course in finding SANITY in your life and in so doing encouraging your adult child to take responsibility for their life and their choices.
You can apply the “S” step in SANITY and STOP this madness…and accept the fact that you may be thought of as selfish or uncaring….or you can choose to get caught up in the drama, chaos, and crisis all over again. Tell your parents in a calm and loving manner that you have made a choice based on prayerful consideration and love for your child and that you have a different definition of “helping” and “enabling.” And….let the chips fall where they may.
You can’t change your parents any more than you can change your adult child.
All you CAN do is ask God for direction and stay the course.