by Allison | May 13, 2018 | Adult Children, Allison Bottke's Blog, Enabling, Uncategorized
A sneak-peak excerpt from… How to Connect with Your Troubled Adult Children by Allison Bottke (c) 2018 Releasing January 2019 from Harvest House Publishers. PRE-ORDER AVAILABLE NOW . This Isn’t How Life Is Supposed to Be It may sound silly, but I can’t begin to...
by Allison | Feb 1, 2018 | Adult Children, Co-Dependency, Enabling, Hope/Healing
It was over a decade ago, but I vividly recall that I had to sit down when I got the call from my publicist at Harvest House Publishers. The media attention for my newest book—the 24th in my writing career—was unlike anything I had ever experienced. It seemed I had...
by Allison | Sep 2, 2015 | Enabling, Setting Boundaries with Difficult People
When we make the decision to resign from whatever role we’re playing in our difficult person’s drama, the storyline can turn quickly to melodrama. When we decide to set boundaries and find balance, the excuses for why we shouldn’t can pop up like weeds in a garden. My...
by Allison | Jun 10, 2015 | Adult Children, Co-Dependency, Enabling
Before I could look at the part I played in the enabling dynamic, I focused on everything except my own emotional, spiritual, psychological, or physical health. It’s never too late to begin new behavior and we can start now. One of the very things we can do to...
by Allison | Feb 4, 2014 | Adult Children, Allison Bottke's Blog, Co-Dependency, Enabling, Setting Boundaries with Difficult People
A reader sent me the following plea for help. My response might not have been what she expected. . Dear Allison: I am struggling with issues dealing with my mom and son. My son moved out when he was a teen, he didn’t want to follow the rules at home and was...
by Allison | Jul 26, 2013 | Enabling, Wisdom & Resources, Women and Boundaries
Dear Blog visitors, what does “guarding your heart” look like to you? I’ve mentioned several important areas of life where women usually need to set boundaries, including relationships, home, workplace, church, and self. We’ve distinguished between helping and...