What the SANITY Support Blog is All About
As the author of the Setting Boundaries ™ book series, a day seldom goes by when I don’t hear from someone who has read one of my books or has heard me interviewed on a radio talk show or television program.
Folks contact me for several reasons:
- To share their Setting Boundaries success stories
- To learn more about the 6-Steps to SANITY, or about setting boundaries in general
- To ask my advice in dealing with their challenging adult children, difficult people, or toxic parents
- To inquire about starting a SANITY Support group in their home, church, or community
- To find out where they can get my books
- Because someone referred them to my books, website, or blog
- To cry out for help in desperate situations concerning their adult sons, daughters, and/or grandchildren
Why have you stopped by today?
It’s exciting to hear from readers who have found SANITY and are experiencing life-changing transformation in their relationships. On the other hand, it’s often heart breaking to hear from so many people who have reached the end of their rope and are crying out for help—especially concerning relationships with their adult children.
I want to hug each one of you and let you know that you’re not alone.
- If you are searching for hope and healing today, my prayer is that you will find it when you find SANITY Support, and that you’ll allow me and our growing blogging community to help on your journey.
- If you know someone who desperately needs to set healthy boundaries and are looking for resources to share with them, God bless you for caring.
Who will find the SANITY Support blog helpful?
1. Parents and Grandparents who have challenging relationships w/ adult children
2. Adult children who have challenging relationships w/ toxic parents
3. Anyone who has challenging relationships with difficult people
4. Men and women readers who desire to set healthy boundaries and live a more sane life
5. Anyone living with the insanity of drama, chaos, crisis, and stress because of the poor choices someone else is making (i.e. drugs, alcohol, unemployment, crime, etc.)
6. People who have weight issues and need to set boundaries w/ food
7. Anyone who has had or is considering WLS (weight loss surgery)
8. Stressed out people looking for hope, healing and SANITY
God will always make a way when there seems to be no way, and it’s no accident you are reading this now. Stay strong, faithful and focused as you travel the journey to set healthy boundaries and find SANITY in your life.
You’ll often hear me say that the choices we make can change the story of our life.
Some of the boundary setting choices we face will be life changing. Yet it’s not just about the monumental choices we make that dramatically change the course of our life, but the individual choices we make in the everyday moments of life as well. Combined they make us who we are, a rich tapestry of experience woven together with choice.
Thank you for making the choice to visit my blog and I hope you’ll make the choice to return and participate in our community by sharing your thoughts, feelings, opinions, and insight via the comment sections after each posting. Please subscribe to the RSS blog feed on the right side of your screen, and feel free to share this link with friends and family.
What primary issues will the SANITY Support blog address?
The enabling of adult children is an epidemic issue in our society. Parents and grandparents around the country are dealing with situations that range from adult kids who simply cannot “launch,” to adult kids who are addicted to drugs and/or alcohol, have been in and out of rehabilitation centers, jail, and/or prison, and whose lives create an ongoing source of drama, chaos and crisis for the entire family.
Typically, these parents and grandparents have reached the end of their rope emotionally, financially, and spiritually, and are in desperate need of “sanity” in an “insane situation.” They are looking for guidance and reassurance to make choices that will change their lives (and hopefully the lives of their loved ones).
However, it’s not just about setting boundaries with adult children. More and more people are finding increasing challenges in their relationships with “Difficult People.” This could be a spouse or ex-spouse, siblings or other relatives, in-laws, neighbors, bosses and co-workers, church members, and the list goes on.
Setting boundaries and finding SANITY is quite literally for everyone who wants healthier and happier relationships.
Once again, welcome to the SANITY Support blog, I look forward to communicating with you as we strive to set healthy boundaries in all of our relationships and bring glory and honor to God.
Blessings and God’s peace,
I am reading your book Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children. Your story is so very close to my story. It is heartrending to even read about it because it hurts so much! I am at the point in my life where I am just beginning to stop the enabling but my son just does not get it yet. I am afraid not only for him but of him. I am concerned he may retaliate. I am currently raising my 8 yr old grand daughter (not his child) and my main concern is for her safety. I am married 25 yrs now. My husband is my son’s step-father. My son is my only child but when I married my husband he had two very young daughers from a previous marriage. I loved them like a mother loves a daughter. My grand daughter is the child of one of the step daughters. That’s another story of it’s own. What advice do you give to someone who is afraid of their own son? He is now 36 yrs old. I have been going through this nightmare since he was 13 yrs old.. In and out of facilities, prisons, both local and state, rehabs, mental,you name it. My husband is not afraid but we have no way to defend ourselves so I sleep with my cell phone and keys close to me in case of emergency. I don’t think I can put a PFA on him because he has not threatened me, but I am very leary of him because of he has a history of violence in the past toward his father who is now deceased. I am a christian and go to church but I have no real friends and when I do make friends we always go our separate ways. Most of the friends I had could not keep up with my pain over my son so I am basically a loner. Even my husband is someone I can not talk to because it always turns into an argument. Thanks for listening.
Get a friend and trust that you deserve one. Do not let the “pain over” your son be the purpose of that friendship; yet do not live in denial and avoid it. Your happiness gives God glory; be happy despite the attempt of the devil to thwart it. Recognize that the battle is won already! Our God reigns and when you ask him to forgive you for making this situation your “whole and all”, my quotes, then you will recieve the gift of love He has just for you.
You will always live in fear if you choose to do so.
Great advice, Gloria! I agree with you 100%, When we spend year-after-year-after-year involved in the drama, chaos and crisis that revolves around challenging relationships where boundaries are weak or non-existent, (especially with adult children) we can often lose ourselves in the process. Our happiness does give God glory, and it’s important to remember that. Thanks for sharing this encouraging message.
Jean, my heart aches for you and for all of my brothers and sisters who struggle with painful relationships with our own children. My apologies for not understanding that Donna’s comment was specifically addressing your comment. Deciding to stop the insanity of living on the gerbil wheel of fear and bondage is the first step in finding SANITY. The “S” in STOP is…Stop our own usual responses, Stop the flow of money, and Stop the insanity. You said your son “doesn’t get it yet,” and the truth is he may NEVER get it…but he doesn’t have to. We can only change ourselves and how we respond to the people God places in our lives.
You will remain in bondage forever if setting healthy boundaries makes you fear for your safety. This is an issue that must be addressed immediately and I encourage you to locate a licensed Christian Counselor in your area as soon as possible to talk about this, and about your legal options to protect yourself.
In the mean time, I encourage you to sit down with your Bible, take a deep breath, and open it and start by reading Psalm 34 in it’s entirety. The Lord hears our cries, Jean, and He knows what we are feeling. Seeking wisdom and discernment for how to respond in difficult situations such as you are facing can only be done with God’s help, guidance and wisdom. I’ll be praying for you to find comfort and direction in His Word. Please stay in touch with us.
And if there are others out there who can encourage and support Jean, please post your comment below.