by Allison | Feb 1, 2018 | Adult Children, Co-Dependency, Enabling, Hope/Healing
It was over a decade ago, but I vividly recall that I had to sit down when I got the call from my publicist at Harvest House Publishers. The media attention for my newest book—the 24th in my writing career—was unlike anything I had ever experienced. It seemed I had...
by Allison | Feb 7, 2017 | Setting Boundaries with Negative Thoughts & Painful Memories, Women and Boundaries
#7 Coming Spring 2017 Although I’m frequently referred to as a “boundary expert,” the truth is I’m the most boundary-challenged person I know. They say to “write what you know,” and I’ve followed that adage since book one in this series; Setting...
by Allison | Nov 19, 2015 | Adult Children, Allison Bottke's Blog, Co-Dependency, Hope/Healing, Setting Boundaries with Difficult People
Why Does Someone Live Like This? . I had just finished watching a movie on television and randomly clicked through the channels to see if anything else caught my eye. When I saw a woman teetering precariously atop a huge mound of junk, I stopped. She was nicely...
by Allison | Aug 6, 2015 | Women and Boundaries
Emotions are powerful signals. When we’re trying to understand something or make a decision, our emotions can help us determine whether our conclusions are valid. For example, when we think about something that contradicts our values, our emotions will tell us it is...
by Allison | Jun 10, 2015 | Adult Children, Co-Dependency, Enabling
Before I could look at the part I played in the enabling dynamic, I focused on everything except my own emotional, spiritual, psychological, or physical health. It’s never too late to begin new behavior and we can start now. One of the very things we can do to...
by Allison | Feb 12, 2015 | Wisdom & Resources, Women and Boundaries
FEBRUARY 2015 AUTHOR UPDATE . When we last spoke (on August 28, 2014,) I had reached a critical impasse in my life and career. After fifteen years and thirty books, I was seriously contemplating shutting down my websites and putting an end to my writing career. It was...