by Allison | Jun 12, 2016 | Adult Children, Allison Bottke's Blog, Hope/Healing
JUST RELEASED AUDIO BOOK! Listen (FREE!) to Carol Kent’s powerful Foreword from Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children as narrated by Margaret Strom.
by Allison | Nov 19, 2015 | Adult Children, Allison Bottke's Blog, Co-Dependency, Hope/Healing, Setting Boundaries with Difficult People
Why Does Someone Live Like This? . I had just finished watching a movie on television and randomly clicked through the channels to see if anything else caught my eye. When I saw a woman teetering precariously atop a huge mound of junk, I stopped. She was nicely...
by Allison | Sep 2, 2015 | Enabling, Setting Boundaries with Difficult People
When we make the decision to resign from whatever role we’re playing in our difficult person’s drama, the storyline can turn quickly to melodrama. When we decide to set boundaries and find balance, the excuses for why we shouldn’t can pop up like weeds in a garden. My...
by Allison | Aug 26, 2015 | Uncategorized
Setting healthy limits and managing conflicting emotions is a never-ending quest for women, no matter how old we are. However, this quest can be especially challenging for teens who are still developing in many ways. You’re trying on different personas in a quest to...
by Allison | Aug 6, 2015 | Women and Boundaries
Emotions are powerful signals. When we’re trying to understand something or make a decision, our emotions can help us determine whether our conclusions are valid. For example, when we think about something that contradicts our values, our emotions will tell us it is...
by Allison | Jul 29, 2015 | Uncategorized
With so much attention being focused on what foods to eat or not eat, or by ignoring nutrition needs entirely, the real bottom line is that many of us have stopped paying attention to why we are even eating in the first place. Are we really hungry? Do our bodies...
by Allison | Jul 22, 2015 | Uncategorized
Change Can be Freeing….or Frightening When we make the decision to release our adult children to fend for themselves, it can be both freeing and frightening. For many of us, this sudden freedom to live our own lives will seem like a breath of fresh air. For others, it...
by Allison | Jul 15, 2015 | Uncategorized
Although there is certainly no improving on the original Ten Commandments found in Exodus 20, I have developed a helpful “top ten” list of commandments (or suggestions) when it comes to breaking the enabling cycle. The Lord gave us Ten Commandments as foundational...
by Allison | Jun 10, 2015 | Adult Children, Co-Dependency, Enabling
Before I could look at the part I played in the enabling dynamic, I focused on everything except my own emotional, spiritual, psychological, or physical health. It’s never too late to begin new behavior and we can start now. One of the very things we can do to...
by Allison | Jun 3, 2015 | Setting Boundaries with Difficult People
In order to obey God’s commandment to love our neighbors, we need to consider the perspective of the difficult people in our lives. Having empathy includes understanding that these people have feelings and emotions of their own. Unless we’ve walked in...
