Setting Boundaries with Painful Memories – Stop Hoarding Your Hurts – Reader Feedback Questionnaire

Why Does Someone Live Like This? . I had just finished watching a movie on television and randomly clicked through the channels to see if anything else caught my eye. When I saw a woman teetering precariously atop a huge mound of junk, I stopped. She was nicely...

The Never-Ending Quest

Setting healthy limits and managing conflicting emotions is a never-ending quest for women, no matter how old we are. However, this quest can be especially challenging for teens who are still developing in many ways. You’re trying on different personas in a quest to...

Emotions Keep Us Alive

Emotions are powerful signals. When we’re trying to understand something or make a decision, our emotions can help us determine whether our conclusions are valid. For example, when we think about something that contradicts our values, our emotions will tell us it is...

What Are We Feeding?

With so much attention being focused on what foods to eat or not eat, or by ignoring nutrition needs entirely, the real bottom line is that many of us have stopped paying attention to why we are even eating in the first place. Are we really hungry? Do our bodies...
Ten Steps to Strength for Parents in Pain

Ten Steps to Strength for Parents in Pain

Change Can be Freeing….or Frightening When we make the decision to release our adult children to fend for themselves, it can be both freeing and frightening. For many of us, this sudden freedom to live our own lives will seem like a breath of fresh air. For others, it...
Top-Ten Suggestions for Breaking the Enabling Cycle

Top-Ten Suggestions for Breaking the Enabling Cycle

Although there is certainly no improving on the original Ten Commandments found in Exodus 20, I have developed a helpful “top ten” list of commandments (or suggestions) when it comes to breaking the enabling cycle. The Lord gave us Ten Commandments as foundational...
It’s Never Too Late

It’s Never Too Late

Before I could look at the part I played in the enabling dynamic, I focused on everything except my own emotional, spiritual, psychological, or physical health. It’s never too late to begin new behavior and we can start now.  One of the very things we can do to...

Balancing Our Boundaries

Finding Balance Maybe you have challenging relationships with adult children, difficult people, toxic relatives, or even with food. Perhaps you’ve experienced an internal struggle with painful memories or emotions, with stress, expectations, or habits. When setbacks...